Sunday, April 13, 2014 Saturday, April 5, 2014

poisondartwolf:

herbertbillings:

100 Reasons (Why I’m Not Out To My Family)” pt. 2

(in which members of the lgbtq community speak out about why they’re not open about their sexuality with their families.)

poster series

Shari Heck, 2014.

Every time someone says they hope bigots a child that’s lgbtqa think if this.

Thursday, April 3, 2014

gunlust:

giving trans women roles to cis men 

  • robs trans women actors (who can’t get cis women roles) and gives those roles to cis men who already have an enormous amount of roles and opportunities
  • reinforces the false idea that trans woman are somehow equivalent or analagous to cis men in costume 

like really thats all there is to it. theres nothing you can say that justifies this practice

(Source: whereismyhoverboard)

Monday, March 17, 2014

ouyangdan:

repeat after me:

alien and fantasy races are not standins for poc and genderqueer people

alien and fantasy races are not standins for poc and genderqueer people

alien and fantasy races are not standins for poc and genderqueer people

Tuesday, February 4, 2014 Thursday, January 9, 2014
skysquids:

so here is what happens to me when we do the ‘urinals’ vs ‘no urinals’ bathroom setup.  it becomes an opportunity to out me, make assumptions about my genitals, essentialize my gender according to my birth sex, and push me into the men’s room.  this is actually what happens to me when we do this.  let’s not do this, ok?  spread the word.

skysquids:

so here is what happens to me when we do the ‘urinals’ vs ‘no urinals’ bathroom setup.  it becomes an opportunity to out me, make assumptions about my genitals, essentialize my gender according to my birth sex, and push me into the men’s room.  this is actually what happens to me when we do this.  let’s not do this, ok?  spread the word.

Thursday, December 12, 2013

liamdryden:

So many self-prescribed intellectuals on this site are happy to repurpose words and terms like “shipping” and “feels” to suit their needs but when they’re faced with the idea of using “they” as a singular genderless pronoun for somebody’s personal comfort suddenly it’s grammatical blasphemy

Monday, December 9, 2013

[TW for trangst] Being trans makes you apologetic.

cocksucking-accent:

cocksucking-accent:

(AKA “I should be doing homework but this really needs to be said and I didn’t stick it in my proposal because it felt like whining and I couldn’t find a proper place to put it but this has got to be out there somewhere.”)

It does. It really does.

It starts the very first time you realize you aren’t “normal,” and you turn to your first person and tell then that maybe, you know, if it’d be ok… Maybe they wouldn’t mind calling you Sam instead of Samantha? Or Joan instead of Joe? Or could they just use your initials, maybe? If it’s not too much trouble? And this person (whoever they are) thinks it’s a game. And they laugh, or they snicker, or they ask you why you would do such a thing. Because Joan is a girl name, and you’re not a girl. Why would you want to be one? So you apologize and laugh it off, but inside you’re not smiling.

And it happens again a couple of years later, when you find your way to the internet and make yourself an account in a kiddy forum and say you’re a boy. Your little display picture is a male anime character or another. And you grow to really like this community, until one day someone finds you out for one way or another. Maybe you were careless and let a friend see the site over your shoulder, and they joined. Maybe you started IMing with someone from the forum and they saw your display photo on your IM system, and it’s of a girl. Maybe you decided to go to a meet-up and everyone realizes you were lying. Because of course you are not who you say you are. So you apologize and laugh it off, and say you were just roleplaying. Or it was a joint account with a friend, and they left. Or you clicked the wrong gender when signing up and didn’t realize until people thought you were that gender and you kept it going because it was funny. But of course you can’t go back to the site now.

Again when you start dressing more androgynous, and when someone genders you the way you feel inside, your friends laugh and assure these people that you are not what you look like. That you really do have a dick. Would this stranger want to see it? ‘Cause they’ll pull it out for you if they have to. Hahaha, isn’t it funny that this person thought you were a girl? And you laugh and you apologize to this other person for looking misleading, but inside you are kicking yourself.

And then you come out. Hesitantly at first. You come out to a couple of close friends, and you say you may be genderqueer, and you don’t really know where you stand, but would they mind calling you “they?” And could they just call you Alex, or Cory, or Logan, which are all gender-neutral? And they say that maybe, I mean, it’s really hard, they’ve always known you as Alice and it’s going to be so super-hard to keep those pronouns straight. Hahahaha get it? Straight? Because you’re not straight if you want to be called Alex. You’re obviously gay or bi or something because straight people don’t switch genders. And you say it’s ok and you know it will take time and you don’t correct them even when they misgender you through the years and they call you the wrong thing in front of new friends or in front of your partners. And you apologize for picking such difficult pronouns and for putting them through this and asking them to switch over.

You apologize when you throw the gender ratios off in class and if only you were a girl you could be divided by gender and both groups would have the same amount of people. But, I mean. You don’t mind being with the girls, right? You understand them! Here, ehm, Rob. We promise we still think of you as a guy. But it will be so much easier if you just do us this favor and let us put you in the girls’ group. And you apologize for putting them through this.

You apologize for holding up the line at a gay club because the bouncers are convinced that your ID is a fake. And when you get out at the end of the night and they’re still there, you ask them why they thought it was fake, since it’s brand-spanking-new and you just got it, with the right name and gender, this past month. And they ask you if you’re trans. Oh, you are? Well, that explains it. It just didn’t look right, you know. The font is too thin.

You apologize when you wear a dress and grow your hair out and wear make-up and they still call you Andrew because it’s so hard for them because you will always be “he” to them.

You apologize for going into the right bathroom.

You apologize for mentioning that not all men have deep voices.

You apologize for knowing about periods.

You apologize for having a period.

You apologize for not having a period.

You apologize for being tall.

You apologize for being short.

You apologize for passing.

You apologize for being read.

You apologize for fucking existing and taking up space that you have no right to because you’re a filthy trans person and should just let cis people go ahead and walk all over you.

You apologize for wanting the same rights everybody else has.

And then? Then you have to apologize for not speaking up, because it’s not like cis people could have guessed that you were having issues with housing, or with pronouns, or with the bathroom, or with surgery, or with anything at all. Because you should be both unnoticed and a banner child. Because you should let everybody know you are here in case you make them uncomfortable, or in case they do something that’s fucked up and that screws you over. Because it’s not like you were supposed to see that. If they had only known you were there, they wouldn’t have done it. But oh my gods stop talking you’re always talking about how hard you have it why aren’t you just thankful about the stuff we’ve given you.

So you apologize for being.

It’s making the rounds again.

Monday, November 4, 2013
When trans women are told that they need to stop being assertive and strong because it is a sign of male privilege - invariably by “feminists” who, of course, encourage cis women to be assertive and strong - that’s transmisogyny.

When trans women are pressured into being silent, rarely offering their opinion, and refusing leadership roles for fear of being seen as male or accused of having male privilege, that’s transmisogyny.

When trans women are afraid to analyze or discuss the role of male privilege in their life because of the way accusations of male privilege have been used as weapons to silence, shame, and misgender trans women, that’s transmisogyny.

When trans women do analyze and discuss the role of male privilege in their lives and come to different conclusions than the dominant cis feminist perspective and are told it is because they simply don’t understand privilege or are ignorant of feminism, that’s transmisogyny.
Tobi Hill-Meyer, What Transmisogyny Looks Like 

(Source: metapianycist)

Saturday, November 2, 2013

mamastiles:

Men don’t get to decide what is misogynistic

Straight people don’t get to decide what is homophobic

Cis people don’t get to decide what is transphobic

White people don’t get to decide what is racist

People in positions of power don’t get to decide what is considered oppression

That’s how we move backwards, not forwards

Likewise, monosexual people don’t get to decide what is biphobia.

Thursday, October 24, 2013
What the hell does a woman’s body possess that makes it a woman’s body? What does it NEED to have to be female. Did you immediately think of breasts, ovaries, vaginas? Gross. Think about that for more than two minutes and you’ll see why it’s gross. Still don’t get it? Well then go down to the nearest breast cancer walk and tell every single woman with a double mastectomy she’s not a woman. When you’re done with that, go down to your local hospital, ask the nurse where the OR is, and wait outside until you can find a woman fresh out of her hysterectomy surgery, and tell her the news. Yeah, that sounds evil, doesn’t it? Well it’s basically what you’re doing when you’re policing trans women’s bodies. You’re telling all women what they have to have on/in their bodies to be a woman. Which, obviously, is totally gross. Guest Post: Transmisogyny is Misogyny Against All Women « Tranarchism
Wednesday, October 23, 2013

vag-badger:

elenilote:

peabug:

thegodofmischiefmanaged:

does this even need a caption

"we need straight pride because people give sexual minorities too much positive attention just because they’re oppressed!!!"

As if this is a surprise to anyone?

I’m actually super surprised by the lesbians one and I’m left wondering if the male obsession with lesbians has something to do with it.

I hate to make everything about bisexuality, because the whole thing is horrible, but I really want to show this to every person who says that biphobia isn’t a thing. I think this speaks for itself.

(Source: the-ginger-imp)

Monday, October 21, 2013

bisexual-community:

dreamghosts:

ok so from what i understand, someone who is bisexual can be trans*phobic, but only if they single out trans* people in their attraction? since despite the different genitalia, trans* people are still female/male, yes?

is being bisexual but only attracted to cis people being trans*phobic as well?

Sadly it is true. Some bisexual people (and some lesbian people and some straight people and some gay people, etc.) can be transphobic. Becasue some people - no matter what their declared sexual orientation - are just plain old immature nasty bigots.

BUT being Bisexual does not actually mean you Are Transphobic. In fact many (many, many) Bisexual People ARE Trans*/Gender Variant People. Also many (many, many, many) Bisexual People are Partnered with Trans*/Gender Variant People. Quoting Boston’s venerable and well respected Bisexual Resource Center,

To imply that, by definition, a person who labels zirself* “bisexual” does not respect and/or is not sexually/romantically interested in people outside the male/female gender identity is not only untrue, it’s actually insulting to that person.

Being bisexual simply means that you have the capacity to ♥ people of SAME Gender as yourself as well as ♥ people of DIFFERENT Genders/Gender Presentations from yourself. That is it. That is all. Full stop.

As you will notice being bisexual has absolutely nothing to do with liking/being cisgender, transgender, gender variant, androgynous or any other variety of gender/gender presentation. Also note that begin bisexual has absolutely nothing to do with being celibate, asexual, monogamous or non-monogamous or promiscuous either. Plus there is no mention of any magic percentages, no 50%/50% or anything like that. And how it exactly plays out in you will most likely not be exactly the same in how it plays out in someone else. And that’s perfectly ok too.

In other words (Surprise!) Bisexual People are Actually Individuals, just as Lesbian, Straight, Gay, etc., etc. people are.

(Source: chlorophylia)

Monday, September 16, 2013
I am a trans woman. My sisters are trans women. We are not secrets. We are not shameful. We are worthy of respect, desire, and love. As there are many kinds of women, there are many kinds of men, and many men desire many kinds of women, trans women are amongst these women. And let’s be clear: Trans women are women.

A quote from a piece I wrote today about the shaming of men who desire and date trans women, and how this stigma only further demeans trans women.

Yes, this is a direct response to the commentary following the foolishness surrounding hip hop DJ Mister Cee.

(via janetmock)

Monday, July 8, 2013