Tuesday, October 22, 2013 Sunday, October 13, 2013

petitsirena:

telling a bi / queer person they’re not bi / queer because they haven’t slept with two genders is the same as telling a straight / gay virgin they have no sexuality because they haven’t fucked anyone yet

aka it makes no sense

so stop it

forever

Friday, September 27, 2013
I gave a speech on bisexual health at a medical association conference a few years ago. One of the attendees, who is a mental health professional — he’s a therapist — wasn’t at my talk, but when he heard the topic of my speech, he told me, "Oh, when I have clients who say they’re bi, I really question it. I really make them talk it through, and we examine it very closely."

I said, "What if they say they’re gay?" He was gay, by the way.

He said, "Oh, in that case, we just talk about whatever they came to me for."
Amy Andre in Nothing About Us Without Us from her speech on problems of Physical Health in the Bisexual Community, at a bisexual roundtable on 23 September 2013 in Washington DC USA
Thursday, September 26, 2013 Monday, August 26, 2013 Thursday, May 2, 2013
bidyke:





[Image: Dark green grunge background. First line text: “Did you know?”. Second line image: 10 people symbols/silhouettes, of which 4.5 are colored dark orange, and 5.5 light orange. Third line text (large): “nearly 45% of bisexual youth have been bullied online”. Fourth line, smaller text: “By contrast, 19% of straight youth and 30% of gay youth experienced online bullying.” Fifth line: “STOP biphobia and monosexism!”]
The third in a series of infographics. First one. Second one.Source: Inequities in Educational and Psychological Outcomes Between LGBTQ and Straight Students in Middle and High School
The second chapter in my book: Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution  is dedicated to explaining the effects of biphobia and monosexism.

bidyke:

[Image: Dark green grunge background. First line text: “Did you know?”. Second line image: 10 people symbols/silhouettes, of which 4.5 are colored dark orange, and 5.5 light orange. Third line text (large): “nearly 45% of bisexual youth have been bullied online”. Fourth line, smaller text: By contrast, 19% of straight youth and 30% of gay youth experienced online bullying.” Fifth line: “STOP biphobia and monosexism!”]

The third in a series of infographics. First one. Second one.

Source: Inequities in Educational and Psychological Outcomes Between LGBTQ and Straight Students in Middle and High School

The second chapter in my book: Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution is dedicated to explaining the effects of biphobia and monosexism.

Friday, February 8, 2013 Saturday, December 22, 2012
bisexual-community:

bialogue-group:

UPDATE: Continuation Granted for Polish Journalist threatened with Deportation by the USA for being Bisexual

On Monday, December 17, 2012, the case of bisexual Polish journalist Ivo Widlak and his bisexual Hispanic-American wife Lale was extended until December 12, 2013. The judge in Ivo’s case has made no decisions, so the case will remain under investigation by USCIS.Even thought Ivo & Lale have been married since  September 2002, in July 2009 after Ivo exposed some corruption in one of his articles, the US Government declared their marriage to be a fraud since they Ivo & Lale are both openly bisexual and moved to deport Ivo back to Poland.Ivo’s attorney Ira Azulay says, “We (and I) believe that USCIS is far too restrictive in the way they interpret the immigration laws. Anytime we see people being badgered by the system, we believe that we can help them push back. The system for too long has counted on people giving up, and that just should not be the result.”We must thank the Bisexual Community, (in particular American Institute of Bisexuality (AIB), BiNet USA, the Bisexual Queer Alliance Chicago and the Chicago Bisexual Queer Meetup) as well as our Lesbian/Gay & Straight-But-Not-Narrow allies (in particular National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR) and Immigration Equality). However we must again note with sadness those few (and we sincerely hope! getting fewer) in the mainstream Gay/Lesbian community who letting prejudice, misunderstanding and their personal antipathy towards Bisexual people override the best interests of the entire LGBTQ Community as well as common decency tried to use their positions of (relative) power when they publicly allied themselves with those who deny the existence of bisexual people and even went so far as to try and expand the meaning of DOMA to have this marriage declared invalid and the deportation continued.
Yet AGAIN we must ask where is all that “Heterosexual Privilege” that All Bisexual People are rurmored to have?
Things To Do: KEEP WELL INFORMED - read the Original Story: Polish journalist to be deported due to his bisexuality of 12 December 2012 and the Update: The Curious Case of Ivo Widlak of 19 December 2012 by BiNet USA’s president Faith CheltenhamDon’t let this be forgotten, the US Government tried to do this in Silence & Secret. So reblog, share, tweet and signal boostGo to your GSA, your SAGA’s, your LGBT Centers, all the LGBTQ Groups you give your money and time too.  	Make sure they Know All About this.  Show them the actual definitions of Bisexuality.  Make sure they stop making snide jokes about how Bisexuals all have “Privilege” … about how we are all just “in the closet” … how we are binary and transphobic and all the other sly digs and daily erasure we suffer. Make them listen to us and see us and include us.If you are in the USA please join the BiNet USA Group on FacebookIf you are in Chicagoland please join on Facebook: Bisexual Queer Alliance Chicago + Chicago Bisexual Queer Meetup on Meetup: Chicago Bisexual / Queer CommunityAnd remember to watch this and the other Bisexual Blogs to keep up with what is going on in YOUR Community.THANK YOU EVERYONE + Keep Up the Good Work, this Would NOT Have Happened Without YouDo NOT let anyone tell you that Electronic Activism is worthless.  They are just trying to get you all to shut-up and go away.  Do NOT let anyone tell you that Bisexuals are “too complicated”, are a distraction from “core” Gay/Lesbian issues and that anyway Bisexuals will get your “rights” after the mainstream Lesbian/Gay get theirs. This is what (some) cynical and selfish groups/people say about Trans* issues to!  And we’ve ALL seen how well THAT works.  Without Each and Everyone of YOU Ivo & Lale would be in separate countries Right Now instead of home together for Christmas.

Amen!!!

bisexual-community:

bialogue-group:

UPDATE: Continuation Granted for Polish Journalist threatened with Deportation by the USA for being Bisexual


On Monday, December 17, 2012, the case of bisexual Polish journalist Ivo Widlak and his bisexual Hispanic-American wife Lale was extended until December 12, 2013. The judge in Ivo’s case has made no decisions, so the case will remain under investigation by USCIS.Even thought Ivo & Lale have been married since September 2002, in July 2009 after Ivo exposed some corruption in one of his articles, the US Government declared their marriage to be a fraud since they Ivo & Lale are both openly bisexual and moved to deport Ivo back to Poland.Ivo’s attorney Ira Azulay says, “We (and I) believe that USCIS is far too restrictive in the way they interpret the immigration laws. Anytime we see people being badgered by the system, we believe that we can help them push back. The system for too long has counted on people giving up, and that just should not be the result.”

We must thank the Bisexual Community, (in particular American Institute of Bisexuality (AIB), BiNet USA, the Bisexual Queer Alliance Chicago and the Chicago Bisexual Queer Meetup) as well as our Lesbian/Gay & Straight-But-Not-Narrow allies (in particular National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR) and Immigration Equality).

However we must again note with sadness those few (and we sincerely hope! getting fewer) in the mainstream Gay/Lesbian community who letting prejudice, misunderstanding and their personal antipathy towards Bisexual people override the best interests of the entire LGBTQ Community as well as common decency tried to use their positions of (relative) power when they publicly allied themselves with those who deny the existence of bisexual people and even went so far as to try and expand the meaning of DOMA to have this marriage declared invalid and the deportation continued.


Yet AGAIN we must ask where is all that Heterosexual Privilege that All Bisexual People are rurmored to have?


Things To Do:

THANK YOU EVERYONE + Keep Up the Good Work, this Would NOT Have Happened Without You

Do NOT let anyone tell you that Electronic Activism is worthless. They are just trying to get you all to shut-up and go away. Do NOT let anyone tell you that Bisexuals are “too complicated”, are a distraction from “core” Gay/Lesbian issues and that anyway Bisexuals will get your “rights” after the mainstream Lesbian/Gay get theirs. This is what (some) cynical and selfish groups/people say about Trans* issues to! And we’ve ALL seen how well THAT works.

Without Each and Everyone of YOU Ivo & Lale would be in separate countries Right Now instead of home together for Christmas.

Amen!!!

Monday, December 3, 2012

The Gay that I Was Dating:

fucknoqueermonosexism:

“I was with a bi before.  You don’t fuck like bis.”

Thursday, November 29, 2012 Sunday, November 18, 2012

bialogue-group:

fuckmonosexismforever:

That awkward moment when people tell a non-binary bisexual person that bisexuality is inherently binarist (without knowing their non-binary status).

REMEMBER: Don’t repeat stereotypes. Don’t believe lies. Only the Bisexual Community defines what Bisexuality is.

Friday, November 16, 2012

The monosexual privilege checklist

stfubiphobia:

bialogue-group:

  1. Society assures me that my sexual identity is real and that people like me exist.
  2. When disclosing my sexual identity to others, they believe it without requiring me to prove it.
  3. I can feel sure that upon disclosing my sexual identity, people accept that it’s my real/actual sexual identity (rather than anything other than I said)***.
  4. I am never considered closeted when disclosing my sexual identity.
  5. Perception/acceptance of my sexual identity is generally independent of my choices of relationships, partners and lifestyle.
  6. It is unlikely that disclosing my sexual identity will be taken as a sexual offer or a sign of sexual consent.
  7. I can be confident that people don’t misname*** my sexual identity or use different identities to describe my identity when speaking about me.
  8. When seen with a partner I’m dating, I can be certain to be recognized as a member of my sexual identity group.
  9. I never have to worry about successfully passing as a member of my sexual identity group or as a member of my community.
  10. I do not have to choose between either invisibility (“passing”) or being consistently “othered” and/or tokenized based on my sexual identity.
  11. I am never blamed for upholding heteropatriarchy** or cisgender* privilege because of the word that I use to identify my sexuality.
  12. My politics are not questioned based on the the word that I use to identify my sexuality.
  13. I feel welcomed at appropriate services or events that are segregated by sexual identity (such as ‘general’; i.e. straight clinics, gay community centers, lesbian-only events, etc.)
  14. If I’m cisgender, I am accepted and celebrated as a part of “queer” space or movement. If I’m an ally, I am applauded for my support of the queer movement.
  15. If I’m cisgender, queer or gay people will not try to exclude me from our movements in order to gain political legitimacy for themselves. I am never accused of “giving the movement a bad name”; or of “exploiting” the movement.
  16. I can feel sure that if I choose to enter a monogamous relationship, my friends, community or my partner will continue to accept my sexual identity, without expecting or pressuring me to change it.
  17. I needn’t worry about potential partners shifting instantly from amorous to disdain, humiliation or verbal violence because of my sexual identity.
  18. I can cheat on my partners or act badly in a relationship without having other people put this down to my sexual identity or have my behaviour reflect badly on all the people in my sexual identity group.
  19. I can choose to be in a polyamorous relationship without being accused of reinforcing stereotypes against my sexual identity group.
  20. I can fairly easily find representations of people of my sexual identity group and my lifestyle in the media and the arts. I encounter such representations without needing to look hard.
  21. If I encounter a fictional, historical or famous figure of my sexual identity, I can be sure that s/he will be named as such in the text or by the media, reviewers and audience.
  22. I often encounter the word I use to identify myself in the media and the arts. When I hear or read it, I am far less likely to find it in the context of its denial.
  23. I can find, fairly easily, reading material, institutions, media representations, etc. which give attention specifically to people of my sexual identity.
  24. I can feel certain that normal everyday language will include my sexual identity (“straight and gay alike”, “gay and lesbian”, etc.)
  25. If I am cisgender, I am far less likely to suffer from intimate violence.
  26. If I am cisgender, I am less likely to suffer from depression or to contemplate suicide.
  27. If I am cisgender, I am far less likely to suffer from poverty.
  28. I am more likely to feel comfortable being open about my sexual identity at work.
  29. I have access to information about the prevalence of STI’s in my community as well as prevention methods that are suitable for me.
  30. If I live in a city, I can expect to find medical care that will suit my own particular needs.
  31. I am less likely to risk my health by avoiding medical treatment.
  32. Wronging me on grounds of my sexual identity or sexual behaviour is taken seriously:
    • Those who wrong me are expected to know that it is hurtful, and are considered accountable whether or not they intended to wrong me.
    • I have easy access to people who understand that this wrong is unacceptable, and who will support me.
    • I have easy access to resources and people to educate someone who wronged me, if I am not feeling up to it.
    • If I am being wronged, I can expect that others who are around will notice
  33. When I express my sexual identity in my daily life, I can reasonably expect not to be considered unstable, unreliable, indecisive, untrustworthy or in need of help.
  34. I can worry about issues specific to people of my sexual identity group without being seen as self-interested, self-seeking or divisive.
  35. I can remain oblivious of the language, culture, history and politics of bisexuality*** and bisexual people*** without feeling in my culture any penalty for such oblivion.
  36. I have the privilege of not being aware of my privileges.

* Cisgender means any person who identifies as the gender they were assigned at birth, i.e. non-transgender or genderqueer.
** Heteropatriarchy means heterosexual male rule.

*** Bisexual = ♥ people of same gender/gender presentations as yourself + ♥ people of different genders/gender presentations as yourself.

READ THIS. this is absolutely and painfully true. painfully. READ THIS.

(Source: radicalbi.wordpress.com)

Tuesday, November 13, 2012 Saturday, September 8, 2012 Wednesday, August 22, 2012
I think that for monosexuals , they may tend to view bisexuality as like ‘having two monosexualities’ hence they imagine a bi person can never be content with just one other person. says LintLass, a very smart and thoughtful bisexual person (via bialogue-group)