Women’s closets are often mocked as a form of self-indulgence, shop-a-holicism, or narcissism. But this isn’t fair. Instead, if a woman is class-privileged enough, they reflect an (often unarticulated) understanding of just how complicated the rules are. If they’re not class-privileged enough, they can’t follow the rules and are punished for being, for example, “trashy” or “unprofessional.” It’s a difficult job that we impose on women and we’re all too often damned-if-we-do and damned-if-we-don’t.
Lisa Wade (via thefemcritique)
Yep, I have clothes I only wear for job interviews & meetings. I don’t even like them, but I know I need them to get ahead in my career.
Never really thought about this until I started buying clothes to wear to court. Then I added some shoes to make those court clothes good for nights out, and other shoes to make my casual-but-not-too-casual clothes work appropriate. And then I bought stuff (shoes and accessories) to make my court clothes double as slightly-flirty nights out clothes. (Because my nights out aren’t all that provocative, or super flirty, anyway.) And then I’m staring into my closet like, …Where the hell did all this shit come from?! Here’s the answer.
Also the reason why women will look at what looks like a closet full of stuff and say “there’s nothing here for me to wear”. They really do mean it; there’s nothing there that they can wear that will count as “suitable for the occasion”.
Not to mention that most women of size that I know, myself included, are constantly fluctuating in size and shape. So even though I have $200 worth of clothes from my job last summer, my hips are wider/waist is narrower/breasts are smaller and a lot of it no longer fits in a way that’s professionally acceptable
I was talking to male classmate about my internship’s dress code and how I planed on dressing for the casual part of business casual. This way if there was a meeting I needed to dress up for I could wear my actual business cloths and look like I was dressing up. He just gave me a confused look and told me I was over thinking it way to much; completely ignoring the fact that guys can wear 1 suit and have it fit just about any occasion at their office.