Saturday, April 5, 2014

poisondartwolf:

herbertbillings:

100 Reasons (Why I’m Not Out To My Family)” pt. 2

(in which members of the lgbtq community speak out about why they’re not open about their sexuality with their families.)

poster series

Shari Heck, 2014.

Every time someone says they hope bigots a child that’s lgbtqa think if this.

Monday, March 31, 2014

EXPIRIMENT

koblala:

Reblog if you would date a bisexual person

Like if you wouldn’t because there is “too much competition”

Trying to prove a point to an asshole

Saturday, March 29, 2014 Thursday, March 27, 2014
Why is it considered a legitimate research question to ask if we exist? Because bisexuals are framed as liars, by both the straight and the lesbian/gay communities. Because it’s a way to other and exoticise us.

Because there is a long tradition of not taking any marginalized group’s experiences seriously until their lived experience was "verified" by someone in the majority.
Patrick RichardsFink, bisexual activist, researcher and blogger in comment to the Huffington Post 26 March 2014 (via fliponymous)
Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Anonymous asked: i thought you were pansexual but you have a boyfriend,why would you lie about your sexuality

strawberrypantsu:

you said u were going to mcdonalds but you got chicken mcnuggets not a big mac why would u lie about going to mcdonalds

is essentially what you have just said to me

Sunday, March 23, 2014

kaitlin-kelly:

every time you misidentify a bisexual person as gay/lesbian a tiny pink fairy loses its beautiful wings

and also every bisexual wants to punch you in the face.

Clearly pineapples are apples that grow on pine trees, because if they weren’t you wouldn’t call them pineapples would you?

Wait, what’s that? “English as a language frequently uses compositional structure to make new words that don’t translate literally from their component parts” you say? “Other languages like Japanese do exactly the same thing” you say? Wow. Educational.
Archis-Kaito on defining bisexuality.by its etymology.  (via commanderabutt)
Saturday, March 15, 2014 Friday, March 7, 2014 Thursday, March 6, 2014
bimagazine:

How do you tell your parents you are bisexual? (Especially if you already told them you are gay!)
Bisexual blogger Mike Szymanski explains, "Most people think that being bisexual is a step before they come to grips with identifying themselves as gay or lesbian. For me, calling myself gay was a step to realizing that there is such a thing as being bisexual.”


Since coming out as a bisexual in Genre magazine two decades ago, I’ve experienced an equal amount of support and scorn. I was amazed at the wave of disbelief, surprise, even anger … When I was straight, I paraded my girlfriend around like a trophy. When I "came out" as gay five years ago, I did so with a vengeance — moving to West Hollywood and adopting an in-your-face attitude toward anyone with even a faint whiff of homophobia.
But then, the unexplainable happened. After putting my friends and family through the wrist-wringing angst of coming out, I was seeing a woman. I made excuses: "I’m just a gay man who happens to be dating a woman" I told my homo friends. "I was never really satisfied with men," I told my hetero friends. The reality is, I’m embarrassed by the bisexual label. It has the connotation of promiscuity, hiding and sexual schizophrenia …
The most-asked question I’ve had is: "Aren’t you still attracted to men?" The answer is a resounding "YES!" Of course! When you guys are in a love-of-your-life coupling don’t you occasionally turn your head for a buffed chest? When you gals are arm-in-arm with your partner don’t you find your heart flutter a bit when a tight-thighed damsel strolls past? When a straight guy marries, does he suddenly become a eunuch? Of course not …
My mom excused my dad’s concerns. “If you’re born that way and you can’t choose, that’s something we can accept, but if you like both, then you do have a choice, and he takes it personally if you choose a guy.” My dad was more succinct, “If you can choose, why would you choose the wrong way?” … The bottom line for Dad’s irrational attitude toward me is the very same reason I’m criticized by friends in the homosexual community—my chosen “family.” My gay friends complain, “You’re embarrassing (or diluting) ‘the family’”


Click HERE to read the full article
Mike Szymanski is a critically acclaimed journalist including two Hearst Awards for investigative reporting & feature writing; a film critic; and popular columnist who writes the widely read Bisexuality Examiner. A bisexual activist since the early 1980s, he first came out as a gay writer but then found himself sneaking around with a girlfriend for a few years. So then he had to come out second time, this time as bisexual. He was previously a media coordinator for BiNet USA, and now teaches journalism at UCLA. He is also an award-winning author of several books with bisexual themes, including co-authoring the Lambda Award Winning “Bisexuals Guide to the Universe”.

bimagazine:

How do you tell your parents you are bisexual? (Especially if you already told them you are gay!)

Bisexual blogger Mike Szymanski explains, "Most people think that being bisexual is a step before they come to grips with identifying themselves as gay or lesbian. For me, calling myself gay was a step to realizing that there is such a thing as being bisexual.”

Since coming out as a bisexual in Genre magazine two decades ago, I’ve experienced an equal amount of support and scorn. I was amazed at the wave of disbelief, surprise, even anger … When I was straight, I paraded my girlfriend around like a trophy. When I "came out" as gay five years ago, I did so with a vengeance — moving to West Hollywood and adopting an in-your-face attitude toward anyone with even a faint whiff of homophobia.

But then, the unexplainable happened. After putting my friends and family through the wrist-wringing angst of coming out, I was seeing a woman. I made excuses: "I’m just a gay man who happens to be dating a woman" I told my homo friends. "I was never really satisfied with men," I told my hetero friends. The reality is, I’m embarrassed by the bisexual label. It has the connotation of promiscuity, hiding and sexual schizophrenia …

The most-asked question I’ve had is: "Aren’t you still attracted to men?" The answer is a resounding "YES!" Of course! When you guys are in a love-of-your-life coupling don’t you occasionally turn your head for a buffed chest? When you gals are arm-in-arm with your partner don’t you find your heart flutter a bit when a tight-thighed damsel strolls past? When a straight guy marries, does he suddenly become a eunuch? Of course not …

My mom excused my dad’s concerns. “If you’re born that way and you can’t choose, that’s something we can accept, but if you like both, then you do have a choice, and he takes it personally if you choose a guy.” My dad was more succinct, “If you can choose, why would you choose the wrong way?” … The bottom line for Dad’s irrational attitude toward me is the very same reason I’m criticized by friends in the homosexual community—my chosen “family.” My gay friends complain, “You’re embarrassing (or diluting) ‘the family’”

Click HERE to read the full article


Mike Szymanski is a critically acclaimed journalist including two Hearst Awards for investigative reporting & feature writing; a film critic; and popular columnist who writes the widely read Bisexuality Examiner. A bisexual activist since the early 1980s, he first came out as a gay writer but then found himself sneaking around with a girlfriend for a few years. So then he had to come out second time, this time as bisexual. He was previously a media coordinator for BiNet USA, and now teaches journalism at UCLA. He is also an award-winning author of several books with bisexual themes, including co-authoring the Lambda Award Winning Bisexuals Guide to the Universe.

Saturday, March 1, 2014 Thursday, February 27, 2014

Anonymous asked: someone told me recently that bisexuals have privilege over lesbians because they can pass as straight, and that discrimination against bisexuals occurs but since they're privileged/ not as oppressed as lesbians that biphobia doesn't exist. this feels so wrong to me but idk how to work it out... thoughts?

bisexual-community:

diabeteswithowls:

I’m gonna be lazy and copy and paste some stuff from a presentation I’ve already given:

Nearly half of all bisexual women [46%] will be raped in their lifetime, compared to 13% of lesbians and 17% of straight women. This is horrifying, and it comes from the hypersexualization of bisexuality, to the point where simply being bi is seen as an invitation for sexual advances. It also comes from “rape culture,” the social attitudes that tolerate and promote rape and then victim blame women who are seen as overly sexual.

Over 40% of bisexual people have considered suicide compared to 9% of straight people and 27% of gay people, and these rates are much higher for bisexual women than for bisexual men. This is also very alarming and speaks to the power of biphobia and also the harm of gay communities failing to extend their support to bisexual people.

28% of bisexual people are in poverty compared to 18% of straight people and 22% of gay people. While gay people earn 2-3% less than straight men, bisexuals earn 10-15% less. Bisexuals also have higher rates of hypertension, poor physical health, smoking, and risky drinking. Many if not most bisexuals don’t come out to their healthcare providers, which limits their access to complete information and resources, for example, regarding safer sex practices.

Bisexual women in a relationship with a monosexual are much more likely than a straight or lesbian woman to experience domestic violence, whether they are in a relationship with a straight man or a lesbian woman. Compared to lesbians, bisexual women have significantly lower levels of education and higher rates of poverty, are significantly less likely to have health insurance coverage and more likely to experience financial barriers to receiving healthcare. 

Sources: [x] [x]

So pretty much that’s bullshit and sorry bout it but lesbians have monosexual privilege over bisexuals. I know gay men and lesbians get really angry being told that and some bisexuals even shirk away from the word, but too bad, because there’s no other way besides “monosexism” to explain the evidence of institutional oppression of non-monosexuals. And if you have a system of oppression you have a privileged group. (psst just like white privilege or cis privilege it doesn’t make a monosexual evil, just privileged, nor does it mean monosexuals are on the same level as heterosexuals because, you know, intersectionality is a thing)

Passing privilege is not privilege, and plenty of lesbians can pass as straight too. That’s because everyone is assumed to be heterosexual. Only heterosexuals can access heterosexual privilege, because privilege is so much bigger than how a random person on the street perceives you. I can have a public relationship with a guy. So what? Does that change the fact that I’m way more likely to be raped, consider suicide, be in poverty, or be abused by a partner? No. If a closeted lesbian doesn’t have straight privilege then neither do bisexuals. Having my identity erased because people perceive me as something I’m not isn’t privilege, it’s monosexism.

When bisexual people Continually tell you something bad exists + when bisexual people Continually tell you something bad is happening to them, for goodness sakes stop yapping defensively and Just LISTEN!

Friday, February 21, 2014

spookyassguardian:

so do people insisting that bisexual means “two” and two MUST mean “man/woman” and Could Not Possibly mean “same/different” not realize that they’re the ones reinforcing the gender binary or..?

(Source: diabeteswithowls)