Wait, what’s that? “English as a language frequently uses compositional structure to make new words that don’t translate literally from their component parts” you say? “Other languages like Japanese do exactly the same thing” you say? Wow. Educational. Archis-Kaito on defining bisexuality.by its etymology. (via commanderabutt)
I said, "What if they say they’re gay?" He was gay, by the way.
He said, "Oh, in that case, we just talk about whatever they came to me for."
Amy Andre in “Nothing About Us Without Us” from her speech on problems of Physical Health in the Bisexual Community, at a bisexual roundtable on 23 September 2013 in Washington DC USA (via bialogue-group)
It’s this shit right here that gets me so fucking mad at people who trivialise biphobia and monosexism by saying shit like “oh the worst you get is people thinking you are confused and greedy”, as if those stereotypes has no real consequences for bisexuals.
This is a fucking therapist, a man in charge of helping people overcome mental health issues and trauma, admitting freely that he and his colleagues treat bisexuality as if it is a mental health problem and a symptom of mental disturbance to be treated and cured.
He is telling a bisexual woman that he doesn’t treat gay people the same way and I’m pretty sure that he doesn’t treat straight folks that way, he is singling out bisexuals because he thinks there is something wrong with us identifying that way, because we are, in his mind, confused.
It makes me sick to think that he is making clients doubt and dissect their own sexuality, blamed their bisexuality for their mental state, told them that bisexuality was a symptom or something to take centre-stage over everything because he thinks it’s not as natural or mentally healthy as monosexuality.
This attitude towards bisexuality is endemic to the medical health industry, especially mental health, which is already a problematic field given how much stigma is attached to mental illness.
So many times I hear bisexuals express their anger at being told by qualified therapists and doctors that they were confused, greedy and/or unstable and therefore had to jump through pointless hoops, longer and more invasive therapy sessions, or even worse, threatened with having treatment withheld or taken in a direction completely different from monosexuals because “it’s all in their heads” or “just doing it for attention”. All because the person in charge believes all the shitty stereotypes that seem ever so trivial and not worth combating to biphobia-deniers.
And people wonder why bisexuals don’t come out to health professionals? They wonder why we don’t come out at all? They wonder why bisexuals have a rate of suicide and poor health way above straight and gay people?
Don’t ever tell me that is trivial. Bisexuals die because of these stereotypes, they are killed by these so-called mental health professionals telling them that they need to be cured by denying themselves and are erased after death by monosexism. Fuck everyone who doesn’t think that’s worth caring about.
This is why it is so important to make sure that your therapist is actually bi-competant, or at least bi-friendly. If you cannot find a therapist near you on the Bisexuality-Aware Professional’s Directory, the questions on the list are good ones to ask any therapist who claims to be able to treat bisexuals. (via a-little-bi-furious)
An apology for my own biphobia
These things are so prevalent that we see a depressing amount of them in the GSM community, [Ed Note: Another way of saying LGBTQ+ or Queer Community] where bi people should feel safest and most accepted.
And now, as a lesbian, I’m going to try to do a little bit of self-reflection on my own feelings, past and present. :(
First of all, I’m sorry I don’t feel comfortable labeling myself as bi.
*agressively continues to exist*
*agressively bisexuals into the world*
*stubs toe bisexually*
ow *said in a bisexual tone*
*bisexuals bisexually at bisexuals*
fuck all the people who think i’m not fucking real
*pukes bisexual glitter on them*
you can all fall down a bisexual hole and break a leg and when doctors come along to help you you won’t be able to see them because they’re ALL BISEXUAL DOCTORS AND BISEXUALITY ISN’T REAL
friendly-firefly asked: What's your opinion on the idea that, if we take the definition of bisexual to mean having the capacity to be sexually attracted to people of the same gender as you and also people not of the same gender, the label 'pansexual' is rendered pointless?
Here is the thing. The historic definition of Bisexuality as defined by the Bisexual Community (as opposed to our enemies or those who are merely indifferent to us) since the beginning of the modern civil rights movement (late 1960’s/eary 1970’s) has basically Always Been those with the ability to be attracted to those of the SAME gender/sex as you and those who are of a DIFFERENT sex/gender then you.
Or as the well know bisexual activist & speaker Robyn Och’s puts is, "I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted - romantically and/or sexually - to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree."
▼ Community Identity Labels such as Bisexual (or Lesbian or Gay or Straight, or Queer, etc.) describe our commonalities and give us a space to be together.
▼ Personal Identity Labels serve a vital function for individuals: they describe my difference and give me a space in which to be unique.
Looking at the data, Bisexual is the Umbrella or Community Identity Label used by the preponderance of people (more than 90%) for the entire non-monosexual community.
Pansexual as well as a very large number of other terms, that vary by things such as geographical location, (i.e Fluid in Southern California spreading up the cost and inland from there, Omnisexual in western NY State/parts of Pennsylvanian, etc., etc.) as well as age, gender and socioeconomic background and other demographic differences are non-monosexual Personal Identity Labels that may reflect a particular attitude towards ideas such as Gender Theory.
So basically we don’t think that any words people feel comfortable using to further clarify who they are to themselves and to others are irrelevant. We further wish to point out that many people in the entire Queer Nation use a variety of compound identifiers. For example: gay men might be drag-queens, twinks, bears, etc.; lesbians may be butch, femme, AG, lipstick-lesbians, etc. So as far as we are concerned it is wonderful, and helpful, and liberating, and creative, that we have BiDykes, Bisexual Queers, Transgender Bisexual Political Nerds, etc.
What we don’t find wonderful is the deliberate misstatement of and rewriting the history of bisexuality and bisexual people.
And frankly we find that upon careful investigation not to mention discussions with the (equally confused, worried & upset)Trans/Gender Non-Conforming Communities that Most if not All of THAT is coming from forces outside Both of our Communities, who have always been strong historic allies. Forces that have not always been kind to the “B” and the “T” in LGBT and that on many occasions have shown a tendency to value money, power and prestige over the common good.
May we most strongly suggest that all people of good will who have been led to believe that Bisexual refers only to cisheteronormative/cishomonormative people and that the term is implicitly binariest, possibly transphobic and that it somehow reinforces false western gender norms please take a moment to read these important documents:
- Big list of bisexual definitions from many reputable groups & experts from several countries on more than one continent. All saying the exact same thing (same/different) in various ways.
- Bisexual Manifesto from no later than 1990 that clearly shows the historically inclusive nature of the Bisexual Community.
- Speech at 1993 March On Washington by Lani Ka‘ahumanu that calls out monosexuals for their privileges especially against trans people who they did not "allow" to participate as full partners.
- Declaration in 2007 by then BiNet USA President Wendy Curry denouncing all the big Gay/Lesbian Groups who removed Trans Protections from ENDA. Saying that as long as there was No “T” in LGBT the Bisexual Community which is over 1/3 Trans and more if you consider all those partnered with Trans would Never accept it.
- From 2011 classic text on the roots of biphobia and transphobia in the academic world, “Words, binary and biphobia, or: why “bi” is binary but “FTM” is not”
- Article from Bisexual Resource Center about historical roots of the bisexual and trans movements and the political reasons some are trying to undo history and set two allies against each other. Also watch the impressive video too.
We hope all of this both answers your particular question as well as helps clarify a number of points of confusion we have lately been seeing on tumblr.
Men don’t get to decide what is misogynistic
Straight people don’t get to decide what is homophobic
Cis people don’t get to decide what is transphobic
White people don’t get to decide what is racist
People in positions of power don’t get to decide what is considered oppression
That’s how we move backwards, not forwards
Likewise, monosexual people don’t get to decide what is biphobia.
So, let’s say you want to ship two dudes together because ‘omg they have so much unresolved sexual tension’ or ‘did you see the way they looked at each other in that scene’ or ‘they are two dudes that i find hot that exist nominally in the same universe.’
But one or both of them has shown some interest in a female character! Canonically!
Now, I know what you are thinking, about how they are probably just in denial or how canon only does that because they aren’t allowed to show the true gay selves of these characters.
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Why is “bisexual” as a term always being subjected to etymological nitpicking and “lesbian” and “gay” aren’t?
Why is “bisexual” as a term always being subjected to etymological nitpicking and “lesbian” and “gay” aren’t?
“Bisexual” as a term has social implications that transcends it’s etymology, treating it differently than "gay" and "lesbian" is fucking ridiculous and biphobic.
if bisexuals only like two genders then gay people are just happy and apparently have no sexuality.
Lesbians are all Greek poets.