What’s wrong when it comes to bisexuals in activism.
It was nice to meet you last Sunday at All Souls! Most often in public talks, I’ll use the simple term “gay” to refer to the entire LGBT community—it’s short. I did use “LGBT” also—but that gets long and cumbersome to say over and over. And if I forgot to say “bisexual” at all or enough—it’s just a hazard of public speaking—sometimes you don’t cover everything you mean to.
I hope you’ll come to our PACE events and join up with us—there’s plenty of need and opportunities to make a difference here in Shreveport!
[Person that sent it]
This is why I’m probably not going to any events. I don’t want to sit anywhere just to be lumped in with people I’m not. I’m not gay, I’m bi, and I deserve the same respect! “Gay” is too commonly the “inclusive” term, and the second you say you’re not gay you must be a hetero-alley! I’m not accepting that, at all! The inclusive term is “Queer”!
The speaker only said LGBT 2 or 3 times, but said “gay and lesbian” MOST of the speech. Those words could easily be replaced with “queer” or you could say “homo and bi”. There are so many option, yet the bi-invisible ones are the most commonly picked. I see more and more proof that the only people that will fight for bi visible, rights, and respect are bis. It’s hurtful to me, but I’m up for task! I’m going to tell people how to write their speeches. I WILL WRITE MY OWN!
Saying that bisexuality isn’t real won’t make it go away.
YOU CAN CLAIM THAT GRAVITY ISN’T REAL EITHER BUT YOU KNOW WHAT IT’S GOING TO STAY BECAUSE IT DOESN’T CARE WHAT YOU THINK OF IT BECAUSE IT IS FUCKING GRAVITY. BISEXUALS ARE THE SAME WAY.
However redefining bisexuality so narrowly that almost no one actually fits the definition; making up new hateful stereotypes that actually don’t include over a third of the modern bisexual movement’s founders & members; refusing to listen/acknowledge when the bisexual community defines itself (not to mention actually refusing to acknowledge that there IS a bisexual community); refusing to use the word bisexual and instead making up an ever increasing plethora of “new” or redefined words for bisexual; imposing bizarre, false and in some cases wildly contradictory “definitions” bisexuality on the community and playing “oppression olympics” whenever anyone tries to bring up concepts such as monosexism are dong a pretty good job of harming actual bisexual people.
One more bit of rambling for now
college guy comes out as bisexual. everyone thinks “he’s not ‘bisexual,’ he’s just not ready to come out as gay.”
college girl comes out as bisexual. everyone thinks “she’s not ‘bisexual,’ she’s just looking for attention.”
Yep! Or as Louise McCudden recently pointed out, “Our society still promotes the belief that anyone who can choose between men and women will, in the end, choose a man for a life partner.”
Dear lesbian friend who shall remain nameless,
When bisexual women come on to you, they are playing “tease the lesbian” and being “homophobic straight girls”.
When bi women don’t come on to you (and/or have too many male partners), they are “straight bisexuals”.
How, pray tell, does one prove to you that they are queer?
The Token Bi Friend.