Anonymous asked: someone told me recently that bisexuals have privilege over lesbians because they can pass as straight, and that discrimination against bisexuals occurs but since they're privileged/ not as oppressed as lesbians that biphobia doesn't exist. this feels so wrong to me but idk how to work it out... thoughts?
I’m gonna be lazy and copy and paste some stuff from a presentation I’ve already given:
Nearly half of all bisexual women [46%] will be raped in their lifetime, compared to 13% of lesbians and 17% of straight women. This is horrifying, and it comes from the hypersexualization of bisexuality, to the point where simply being bi is seen as an invitation for sexual advances. It also comes from “rape culture,” the social attitudes that tolerate and promote rape and then victim blame women who are seen as overly sexual.
Over 40% of bisexual people have considered suicide compared to 9% of straight people and 27% of gay people, and these rates are much higher for bisexual women than for bisexual men. This is also very alarming and speaks to the power of biphobia and also the harm of gay communities failing to extend their support to bisexual people.
28% of bisexual people are in poverty compared to 18% of straight people and 22% of gay people. While gay people earn 2-3% less than straight men, bisexuals earn 10-15% less. Bisexuals also have higher rates of hypertension, poor physical health, smoking, and risky drinking. Many if not most bisexuals don’t come out to their healthcare providers, which limits their access to complete information and resources, for example, regarding safer sex practices.
Bisexual women in a relationship with a monosexual are much more likely than a straight or lesbian woman to experience domestic violence, whether they are in a relationship with a straight man or a lesbian woman. Compared to lesbians, bisexual women have significantly lower levels of education and higher rates of poverty, are significantly less likely to have health insurance coverage and more likely to experience financial barriers to receiving healthcare.
So pretty much that’s bullshit and sorry bout it but lesbians have monosexual privilege over bisexuals. I know gay men and lesbians get really angry being told that and some bisexuals even shirk away from the word, but too bad, because there’s no other way besides “monosexism” to explain the evidence of institutional oppression of non-monosexuals. And if you have a system of oppression you have a privileged group. (psst just like white privilege or cis privilege it doesn’t make a monosexual evil, just privileged, nor does it mean monosexuals are on the same level as heterosexuals because, you know, intersectionality is a thing)
Passing privilege is not privilege, and plenty of lesbians can pass as straight too. That’s because everyone is assumed to be heterosexual. Only heterosexuals can access heterosexual privilege, because privilege is so much bigger than how a random person on the street perceives you. I can have a public relationship with a guy. So what? Does that change the fact that I’m way more likely to be raped, consider suicide, be in poverty, or be abused by a partner? No. If a closeted lesbian doesn’t have straight privilege then neither do bisexuals. Having my identity erased because people perceive me as something I’m not isn’t privilege, it’s monosexism.
When bisexual people Continually tell you something bad exists + when bisexual people Continually tell you something bad is happening to them, for goodness sakes stop yapping defensively and Just LISTEN!
so do people insisting that “bisexual” means “two” and two MUST mean “man/woman” and Could Not Possibly mean “same/different” not realize that they’re the ones reinforcing the gender binary or..?
if all us bisexual people are “just experimenting” where can we get some goddamn research grants over here
what im saying is that bisexuals, pansexual, and asexuals should all join together so we can be in the fictitious trifecta. enough people will say we’re not real and we’ll all converge together in a massive, fierce mass only spoken of in myth. dont come near us or you too will cease to exist