I have no qualms about ticking the “bisexual” box on an equal opportunities form, but to echo the words of a lesbian friend given that I’m in a monogamous, heterosexual marriage I’m as good as straight to all intents and purposes - right?
No. Not “right”. Ticking the “bi” box on that form no more means I’m going to cheat on my husband with a woman than ticking the “heterosexual” box means I am going to cheat on my husband with a man.
It’s something that I would love to write about, but I don’t know where to start. My identity is an important part of me, but I find myself shying away from debates about orientation and where everybody sits on the spectrum because what do I know? To all intents and purposes, I present to the world as one half of the most “acceptable” setup… well, other than my complete disdain for breeding. Is my insistence that I am bisexual nothing more than shameless bandwagon-jumping? @lastyearsgirl_ (via bisexualftw)
Why should it be that someone like me can have no fear when calling myself a lesbian, but upon discovering I like both women and men, be so hesitant to call myself bisexual? I hesitate because of all the popular misconceptions and negative connotations that are associated with the word.
While I’m personally not a proponent of labeling people, it is so much easier to explain your sexuality when you have a word to call yourself. I only wish I could feel comfortable and safe in the company of others that knew I liked both genders. @bh253 (via bisexualftw)
This movement on the part of people who call themselves pansexual to demonize people who identify as bisexual is quite recent; it has only been the last 10 years or so, but it has been vicious. There are some sites where you will be bullied if you identify as bisexual instead of pansexual.
I have been attracted to trans people all my life, and am gender variant myself; imagine how it felt to be watching a YouTube video about pansexuality in which the young college student stated that all bisexuals are not attracted to trans people and only like manly men and feminine women. And she stated this with total certainty.
We still are trying to find out who is training this generation of college students to hate, and who is trying to set non-monosexuals against each other. Where are these biphobic lies coming from? Estraven2 (via bisexualftw)