*seethes quietly* Ladies, have at it.
Man, not even worth it.
Wait, wait. Maybe I have something in me.
Do I think it’s ‘okay’ for Anders to lie when trying to get Hawke’s help? Hell, no.
Do I understand why he does? Yes, I do.
Understanding, and forgiving, doesn’t make the indiscretion or wrong committed suddenly ‘okay’. Not everyone is capable of forgiving such things, and they’re not obligated to. I don’t think anyone who decides they can’t forgive Anders for what he does is a bad or unreasonable person, not solely based on that.
There are some people who like to romanticize Anders’ character, remove free agency and free will from him, blame Justice for all his problems, treat him as a perfect flawless character. I am not one of those people.
There are also some people who demonize Anders for every action he takes, who refuse to see his virtues buried under the mountain of his faults, who consider him a vile, worthless, whiny, powerless, incompetent and impotent character deserving of hatred and vitriol. I am not one of those people, either.
I am one of those people who loves a character with faults, a character who tries to be good, but often fails, and makes missteps and mistakes because they are carving their own path, walking a way that they have to set for themselves, a path where there is no guidance and no trails, a path that is difficult, and fraught with questions that don’t have easy answers, or sometimes no answers at all. A character who tries his best, and continues to do so, even when his best never seems to be enough. A character who refuses to be ‘fragile’, no matter how much life breaks him.
He is not your little Andy-pandy baby bird with a broken wing for you take and fix and nurse back to health and make all better with your love. He never promised you anything of the sort. He has a difficult life with difficult choices to be made, and that ‘betrayal’ you keep crying about is him putting all his personal wants and needs aside in the hopes that countless numbers of people in the future might not have to go through what the two of you are going through.
I’m also tired of people wiping out any trace of personal responsibility Hawke has in the relationship.
Anders is an incredibly polarizing character. He was written to be that way.
Not sure what the OP means by the last part, whether they’re living in some made up AU universe where Anders is perfect and wonderful and would never do anything bad, or if they’re actually saying Anders never warned them.
OP, if you are actually trying to sit there and tell me that you saw absolutely no signs that Anders would do what he did, that he never ever once told you how important his cause was to him… I’m going to sit here and wonder what game you actually played.